How to know if you are in an abusive relationship.

Good question! What do you need to do to find out if your relationship is abusive or controlling? Do you ask your mom or your friends? Do you consult a guru or ask your pastor? All you can get through those questions is someone else's definition of abuse (or their guess of what you want to hear). How do YOU define abuse?

Here are some guidelines to use when you're considering this question.