Hello, my name is Meredith Holley, and I am a workaholic. I love the work I do. I love the people I serve. But, sometimes those are excuses to run myself into the ground with tasks that are not even productive. Sometimes, I am sorry to tell you, I am willing to sit for hours in front of a spreadsheet, changing the names of columns and deciding exactly what colors I want to use for highlighting. Sometimes, I am willing to set up a perfectly fine web page, and then re-do the entire thing the next day without making it any better. I see this with the other coaches and lawyers I work with, too. Sometimes, being willing to re-create content really focuses it and helps us understand the work we do
This is a hard topic. Our brains want to make it seem complicated because we want life to be easy, but life was never easy and it wasn’t meant to be. It’s not a complicated topic, but it is a hard topic. Dylan Farrow is a perennial reminder that maybe we’re doing something wrong. She’s like the video of a house hanging over the ocean because acid waves have eaten away the beach, and we think, “At least I drive a Prius!” or “At least I stopped eating fast food!” In the same way, I have talked to many people who read about Dylan Farrow’s story of childhood molestation from Woody Allen, or, more recently read her own account in her own words, and want to disbelieve her. It is complicated, their
What Do Lady Doritos Have in Common With Trump’s Statement That “Mere Allegations” Are Ruining Men’s
This week saw the announcement of Lady Doritos. If you missed it, PepsiCo’s CEO Indra Nooyi did a podcast interview in which she explained that women do not like to “crunch too loudly in public,” and so the company was creating a quiet Dorito. We also heard from the President of this country that in his view women speaking out, the #metoo movement, and “mere allegations” of domestic violence are ruining men’s lives and their families. What do these two things have in common? Both of them are reminding women to stay quiet and small. Both of them are reminding women that their voices, just the sounds they make, could be dangerous and they don’t want to make sounds. Both are reminding us that w
I think all of us have seen some of the videos over the past couple of weeks of the more than 150 victim impact statements of the women gymnasts who stood up against Larry Nassar. It was an avalanche of honesty from these exceptional women about what they have struggled through and overcome. In case you don’t know about this for some reason, Larry Nassar was the doctor for USA Gymnastics and Michigan State University, and he pleaded guilty to sexually abusing girl gymnasts. He was sentenced to 175 years in prison, and Judge Rosemarie Aquilina called it her “great pleasure” to sentence him. Some criticized Judge Aquilina for allowing the victims to make impact statements, which is so interest
