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July 12, 2017

I have a dear friend who was in crisis last week. I went with her to try to get help in a mental health evaluation from the emergency room; I listened to her call the crisis line at our women's shelter. It was hard watch. 

It was not hard to watch because of her cr...

June 19, 2017

When we are tolerating behavior we don't like, it can be because there is a boundary problem. More often it is because we are hooking our feelings on other people's behavior.

For example, it is not a boundary to say, "No, I don't want to go out tonight." That's just sa...

June 19, 2017

 It is its own painful process to watch someone you care about experience and submit to abusive and controlling behavior. Sometimes, we have higher standards for what we want someone we love to tolerate than we have for what we are willing to tolerate for ourselves....

June 19, 2017

When we are living in fear of abuse, when we are controlled and threatened by someone else, we usually think it is happening because of these things:

He is bigger than you.

He is richer than you.

I'm not going to argue with you about those factors. You may have a lot of g...

June 17, 2017

I was talking with a client the other day and she told me that she couldn't decide whether her ex-boyfriend was a hero who had saved her life or a demon who had ruined it. Her brain was going back and forth between the evidence that he was perfection on earth or the wo...

June 8, 2017

Good question! What do you need to do to find out if your relationship is abusive or controlling? Do you ask your mom or your friends? Do you consult a guru or ask your pastor? All you can get through those questions is someone else's definition of abuse (or their gues...

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